Don't make the mistake of measuring your success through the eyes of someone else. There are some things in your life that only the Father can measure for you.
Guard your heart. Anger has a way of spilling and amplifying your private thoughts to an audience of one or more who may never forget what you said no matter how many times you apologize. They can forgive you but your ill spoken words may still burn. Clean your heart. It keeps you from sinning while angry. That way if your heart spills in anger, at least you are being painfully truthful. Still ask for forgiveness when you realize that you hurt them then ask the Lord to help them see why you said what was said. At times, truth has to be forced out.
There are reasons why you have been asked to do a thing. Your opinion about it won’t matter so save yourself the frustration of trying to figure it out. You may not even be able to explain it to anyone else either without sounding silly. Therefore, let the works the Lord has called you to speak for you. Let your obedience testify for you. Let your faith hold its own discussion. And let your submission to that particular ‘thing’ make its own sense. Your vision from the Lord will speak for itself and needs no narrator.
You keep telling 'some' people about what you are getting ready to do and then wonder why you are never able to get it done. Stop broadcasting your business to folk who care nothing about you. Talk about it when it's DONE. You don't need 'extra' warfare.
A person has to be three flavors of crazy to think they can change someone else. It won't happen. Even the Lord Jesus does not force change; He invites it.
Instead of waiting and frustrating yourself into wanting someone to be your 'ideal' person, change your perception. Change your view about them and before you know it, you won't be bothered by the fact that the person hasn't changed. All you know is that you have --- and for the better. Contrary to popular opinion, there are some things that you CAN deal with. You may have just been too unwilling to try. No one is perfect, not even you.
A trail of broken relationships says nothing about the people you've been involved with as much as it speaks about you. Nothing is ever going to work out the way you intended. You have to allow for rainy days no matter how much you enjoy the sunshine. In life, there is a thing called 'balance'. It's the axis upon which life turns. The well balanced person does more than eat a nutritious breakfast. They can handle every curve and spin that life brings their way. You can read every book on being successful in life as your personal time will allow, but until you learn how to deal with the rain, your sunshiny days will be spent more in your recovery than in your discovery.
David wanted to build a Temple for the Lord but it was Solomon who was chosen. Just because you have a strong desire to do something does not mean you were ordained to do it. There will be times when your desire to do a thing must be submitted to the one with the grace to do it. It doesn't make you any less of a person but it does mean that you must know the difference between being able to get a thing done versus supporting the person who is supposed to do it. Grown up people can handle it both ways.
One might think the world's greatest apostle is one with a million churches, changeable suits of robes, conferences and seminars filling the dates on their calendars, and popularity to boot. But when I think about the world's greatest apostle who went in search of the people who needed Him, who suffered so the people would learn from His example, and who lived a continuous life of selflessness, it makes you ask yourself the timeless question. What in the world are we REALLY doing in the 'name' of Jesus?
Sometimes the Lord has to sit you outside of a thing to see it for what it really is. Being on the inside skews your view, your opinions are prejudiced by what you feel and are experiencing. But stepping back helps you to examine your own heart in a matter. It shows you where you really were versus where you thought you were. It shows you where people stand. It shows you what really matters, what counts, and what Heaven is recording about you. I have found out, like Solomon, a lot of it, in fact, most of it, is all vanity and vexation of spirit. Only what we do for Christ will last.
Know your own limitations. Know your own strengths, weaknesses. Know when it's your appointed time to be quiet. Don't let obligations, nouns, or pronouns move you prematurely from the quiet place where God has assigned you. Many mistakes are made in the place called, burn out. Wrong attitudes, soulish prophecy, and contaminated motives exist there as well. Know your own spirit.