Sometimes the Lord has to sit you outside of a thing to see it for what it really is. Being on the inside skews your view, your opinions are prejudiced by what you feel and are experiencing. But stepping back helps you to examine your own heart in a matter. It shows you where you really were versus where you thought you were. It shows you where people stand. It shows you what really matters, what counts, and what Heaven is recording about you. I have found out, like Solomon, a lot of it, in fact, most of it, is all vanity and vexation of spirit. Only what we do for Christ will last.